Chapter 13: Most Dudes Disqualify Themselves by fake Larry Chiang

Larry Chiang’s 5th book, WTDTYASBS, launched at a Harvard Law School keynote, so he knows about grand openings (He even attends and promotes the ones he isn’t invited to also). As CEO of Duck9, he leads an army to help college student consumers get a FICO over 770. Post H.L.S. keynote, Harvard Business wrote: “What They Don’t Teach You at Stanford Business School” (his latest Harbus post: “Setting an intention for SXSWi”.

Why Do You Disqualify Yourself All the Time?

It’s no secret that many men struggle with dating and relationships. And while there are a variety of reasons for this, one of the biggest is self-disqualification. That’s right, most dudes disqualify themselves before they even have a chance to succeed.

So, what exactly does it mean to disqualify oneself? It’s when a man assumes that he is not good enough or doesn’t have what it takes to attract and keep a high-quality partner. This could be due to a lack of confidence, past failures, or even societal conditioning that tells men they need to be wealthy, successful, and have a certain level of physical attractiveness to be desirable.

But the truth is, these assumptions are often unfounded and can be detrimental to a man’s dating life. When a man disqualifies himself, he puts himself in a position where he doesn’t even try to pursue the women he’s interested in. He assumes that he’ll be rejected, or worse, that he’s not even worth the effort.

Larry Chiang (@LarryChiang) 5/23/22, 9:58 AM “Most dudes disqualify themselves by failing to show up” — me to a pal who hadn’t taken the first step to ask her out. #dating #pickup

The reality is that most women are attracted to confidence, humor, and authenticity. While having financial success and physical attractiveness can be a bonus, they are not the end-all-be-all. In fact, many women are turned off by men who rely solely on their wealth or looks to attract partners.

So, how can a man avoid self-disqualification and become more successful in his dating life? One key is to focus on building confidence and being authentic. This means being comfortable in your own skin and owning your strengths and weaknesses. It also means not trying to be someone you’re not or pretending to have qualities that you don’t.

Another important step is to take action and put yourself out there. This means approaching women you’re interested in, asking them out on dates, and being open to rejection. While rejection can be tough, it’s important to remember that it’s not a reflection of your worth as a person. In fact, many women respect men who have the courage to put themselves out there and take risks.

Larry Chiang (@LarryChiang) 8/17/21, 1:02 PM The more aggressive you are in #sales, the better you get. 1. It’s not personal 2. It’s a numbers game 3. It’s your job.

Finally, it’s important to have a growth mindset and learn from your failures. No one is perfect, and everyone will experience rejection at some point. But by viewing rejection as an opportunity to learn and grow, you can become a better, more attractive version of yourself.

In conclusion, most dudes disqualify themselves by assuming they’re not good enough or don’t have what it takes to succeed in dating. But the truth is, these assumptions are often unfounded and can hold men back from finding happiness and love. By focusing on building confidence, being authentic, taking action, and having a growth mindset, men can avoid self-disqualification and become more successful in their dating lives.

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