Nick Gray How to Make Friends & Get a Girlfriend

This is a message for single men that are tired of online dating

I made a post 6 months ago about what I should text a woman that I was going on a date with

The date was great. In fact we have spent almost every day since then together

Now she’s my girlfriend

Guys if you’re frustrated with online dating I have some advice

Delete your dating apps and start going out every single day

You need to the gym, go to the grocery store, go work from cafes

You need to try a new group fitness class every other day, go to yoga and pilates, and join meetups for things you’re interested in

Be someone who is out and about

Talk to strangers, make friendly conversation, add value, and don’t be sketchy

Find fun things happening in town that you can invite people to

I guess that’s pretty complicated so try this for now:

Start saying yes to every single invitation that you get

What you want as a single guy- and this is key- is IRL surface area

You want to get out of your home and off your phone so that you improve your odds to meet someone special in real life

That’s what I am calling your IRL surface area

I knew I needed this IRL surface area because I do bad on dating apps

See I’m not 6-feet tall and I don’t have a chiseled jaw

But I do feel comfortable talking to strangers

I met my girlfriend at the pool on a hot summer Tuesday evening

My friend Katelyn invited me to come hang out with her and her friends

I was busy with work and I didn’t want to go but thank God I did

I went to the pool that day because I wanted to say Yes to everything that would help me find a girlfriend

Sitting at home doing work = No

Going to Barton Springs Pool = Yes

She was sitting up on the hill reading a book. I mustered up the courage to go chat but that’s another story

For now just go out. Every day.

Make it a challenge if you want: Go out every day for 10 days straight starting tomorrow

Try new restaurants, coffee shops, all the things I said above

Just start talking to people and doing the things that the person you want to date might do too

You can find a girlfriend if you get more IRL surface area

Here’s a photo of us on the beach yesterday

Good women are out there. You just have to put in the work

I made a post 6 months ago about what I should text a woman that I was going on a date with

The date was great. In fact we have spent almost every day since then together

Now she’s my girlfriend

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